Table of Contents
- Bioenergetic Analysis
- Schizoid Character Type
- Oral Character Type
- Compensating Oral
- Masochist Character Type
- Psychopath Character Type
- Rigid Personality Type
Bioenergetics is a method of interpreting personality via the perspective of the body and its energetic processes. The term “bioenergetic” comes from the Greek words for life (“bios”) and energy (“energeia”). Alexander Lowen, M.D., a pioneer in this field, developed Bioenergetics as a therapeutic approach to help people reunite with their bodies and live life to the fullest. His approach investigates the relationship between the body, mind, and spirit. This analysis aims to engage people in opening their hearts to life and love. It is quite a difficult task because many people close and “harden” their hearts in reaction to various types of trauma. However, going through life with a closed heart is similar to being trapped in the hold of a ship where the significance, adventure, thrill, and glory of life are beyond one’s vision and reach.
Bioenergetic therapy is founded on the idea that physical and mental health are inextricably linked. We are better able to deal with stress and emotions when we are physically fit. Simultaneously, when we are emotionally well, our bodies perform more effectively. Bioenergetic therapy seeks to assist clients in releasing physical and emotional tensions that may be causing issues. Emotional aspects like anxiety, depression, stress, anger management, and trauma as well as physical health improvement in general can both benefit from the therapy. Bioenergetic therapists help their clients release physical tension causing distress, using movement, breathwork, touch and conversation. So the goal of therapy is more than just the absence of symptoms; it is feeling alive, experiencing pleasure, joy, love, and being able to take things more smoothly — guaranteeing them a vibrant health.
“The three core Bioenergetic concepts are grounding, breathing, and vibration.” This implies that the body’s life is limited if it cannot move freely, if a person does not breathe deeply or if one does not feel fully. Restricting self-expression is another aspect that reduces the body’s life.
Schizoid Character Type
The Schizoid personality type, also known as The Unwanted Child or The Dreamer, is most frequently experienced in individuals due to real or perceived rejection and hostility from caregivers while still in the womb. Neglect, starvation, or abuse have a genetic influence on such a child.
Notable Characteristics: A few notable characteristics of the people with this personality type are emotional dissociation, difficulty in expressing needs, trouble creating meaningful connections, and a sense of not belonging in the world. They struggle to be fully present in their body and are frequently drawn into mental or abstract realms. Their extremities are typically cold, and they may appear angular or disconnected. They typically find social situations terrifying and require assurance that they can flee either physically or mentally.
Everyone is unique, and there are no safe places. They tend to believe that they were born in the wrong time or on the wrong planet and may have characteristics like a split personality, be internally withdrawn, and spend most of their time in their own thoughts rather than having a sensory relationship with their own body. Since such a person has lost most of his own bodily sensation, he may not recognize an injury or pain. Because his nerve endings have stopped working, he may have a very high pain tolerance. He may have only a superficial interaction with the rest of the world, preferring to be alone with his ideas. If the energy in his stagnant core is freed, he may erupt in a deadly rage. He may appear impatient and jumpy at times and is frequently unpredictable, can fluctuate between being a genius and being non-functional, prioritizes thought above emotion, might use terms like “I think” instead of “I feel.” and is terrified all of the time. He could be worried because he is constantly on guard and looking over his shoulder for an assault.
Major Fears: A schizoid is afraid of feeling anything. Deep love or deep pleasure are frequently out of their reach. They are afraid of letting go as well as trusting others. They will have more intellectual relationships since they are afraid of getting too close to anyone. Intimate relationships are uncommon and rare for them. They are terrified of not requiring or desiring anything. This is generally the result of being confined to their own bedroom overnight as a child. Since no one came to comfort them in their fear as a child, they learned the same would continue as adults .They are likewise afraid of falling apart.
Strengths: This personality type also has a few worthy qualities, such as being a great thinker, innovator, healer, and spiritualist. They can be quite perceptive and sympathetic. They are very intellectual, energy sensitive, fantasy oriented, and have a strong intuition. They are also talented artists, as well as good storytellers and writers. They have a great sense of acquiring and retaining information as a result of their silent observational abilities.
Origins: Schizoid personality types are often known as “dreamers,” “creators,” or “unwanted children.” Weilhelm Reich and Alexander Lowan proposed that personality development begins at conception. A child’s relationship with their environment is accountable for their behavior and defenses throughout life in the instance of the schizoid personality.
Initially, it has been noted that the environment of the womb or the infant was hostile in the case of the unwanted child, which strongly influenced the infant’s personality and behavior. When the word “hostile” is mentioned, it refers to the mother’s primary relationship with either the fetus or the child. As the child grows and develops in the womb, he becomes increasingly dependent on his mother as well as the environment for existence; but, as previously said, this environment can become harmful and hostile at times. The mother could be an alcoholic, a drug abuse, or a smoker. She could be suffering from a severe physical or emotional condition, or she could be the victim of an abusive relationship. She might also have despised the fetus for its own existence. Whatever the reason, the fetus/infant felt rejected for existence and found his/her environment hostile. Because of the difficult environment, the infant created an unconscious distinction of survival and needs, and so recognized that in order to survive, they must sacrifice their expression of needs. Due to this traumatic experience at such a young age, the individual is constantly terrified as they fight the possibility and fear of being annihilated. As a result, an unconscious defense arises in which the newborn is constantly on alert, seeking to be aware of any potential threat and how to combat it if it does arise. Many of these ideas and defenses occur naturally and instinctively since the newborn is still developing and learning about the world. Increased physical illnesses, such as asthma or allergies, may be provoked by the physiological response to the fear of annihilation. When a young infant’s nervous system is frozen in a fear response, the lungs are often the first part of the body to react. When the child is older and experiences a panic attack, his lungs frequently continue to spasm. Furthermore, due to the fact that the newborn was rejected at such a young age, he formed a frame of thought in which there was a struggle for survival or expressing themselves and their demands. Because of this struggle for survival, a lot of negative core beliefs emerge that are wholly unconscious, and the individual is utterly oblivious of their presence. Examples include emotional dissociation, a lack of confidence in the world and in others, difficulty expressing one’s needs, and attempting to be accepted by others. A person with schizoid character type will often feel “they don’t belong here”, “the world is a dangerous place”, “there is something wrong with me”, “I am my mind”, “I will survive by deadening myself”, “I must control my feelings and others with my mind”, “Emotions are bad, and if I feel them I must diorient with them”, “My rage will annihilate others as well as me”.
Relationships: People with schizoid personalities tend to live alone for extended periods of time, attributing to emotional dissociation. This unconscious behavior is seen as a desire to avoid personal relationships. However, this is entirely inaccurate. Firstly, people with schizoid personalities want to establish deep meaningful relationships but are clueless of how to initiate them. As a result, they can only become comfortable with a potential partner if the other person makes an attempt to create a bond. Due to this, even a short-term connection that is poor and superficial is highly prized by them. It is difficult for people with this personality type to accept the end of a relationship without sound rational grounds. When these people are in a relationship, they tend to bond with their partner through ideas and parallel play. They are more likely to relate to ideas than to people. This is likely because ideas are of a much higher importance to them in comparison to people. They have a tendency to “be of service to others,” which stems from an unconscious need to survive and be accepted. In this altruistic endeavor, they may be readily manipulated and exploited by others, even in good organizations with good people.
Secondly, reaching out or asserting oneself in engaging with others is avoided (very little eye contact or physical closeness can be tolerated). Because intimacy, emotional and physical letting go are avoided, relating is more mental and abstract; others frequently perceive this person as “spacey” or “not really there.” Some particularly love objects are idealized (positively or negatively) by them, as are relationships, which are viewed through a highly spiritual lens with little actual human contact.
Sexuality: Sexual connection is mechanical, with a fear of losing control; sex is desired mostly to subscribe to a romantic or erotic idea, rather than for genuine experience; some physical warmth and closeness is desired, but in small amounts; climax is not the primary goal. People with this character type may indulge in sex to feel alive due to deadened feeling in the body. This can lead to infidelity or a high volume of sexual activity, and partners can be selected mechanically, as in a club, or based on availability rather than attraction. Alternatively, schizoids may not have any sexual connections since the urge (which is not the same as desire) is weak or the manner of establishing partnerships is unknown to them. Sex may be regular in a monogamous relationship, but it will be a weak release and may appear artificial.
Career: People with the schizoid personality type prefer to work alone rather than in groups as they like to live in their own company. They are usually silent observers who prefer to work in a distanced environment and hence might perform better individually rather than in a team. This happens due to difficulties in expressing themselves, and difficulty submitting themselves to strangers. They are quite comfortable with not communicating with other people, as it is difficult for them to trust strangers, and they tend to be hyper vigilant while interacting with others which results in draining a great amount of their energy. One major drawback they experience in their professional lives is that, despite having extensive experience and knowledge, they become stuck in their jobs and find it difficult to advance. This happens due to their inability in taking an initiative and being praised for their efforts, as being the center of attention overwhelms them and makes them feel uncomfortable. Hence, they prefer to stay low. Growing in their career is not their top most priority which in turn affects their financial management.
Spirituality: Problems are often intellectualized, philosophized, or spiritualized by creators. Creators may get interested in spiritual movements, but obscure ones rather than societal ones. Creators are also spiritual in the sense that they place a high importance on ideas and intentions. They frequently have a deep curiosity regarding results. This is the root of the term “creator”—this figure frequently attempts to bridge the gap between outstanding ideas and the real world. That is, they may consider creating something fascinating or beneficial in the world in concept, but struggle to take real actions to put these ideas into action.
Psychological Functioning: A lack of identification with the body results in an inadequate sense of self. There is hypersensitivity and hyper awareness due to weak ego boundaries (which connects to a lack of peripheral charge in the body). The individual performs poorly in reality testing. Persistent paranoia is caused by projected fury, which is intensified if either parent invested sexual energy in the child. Psyche is perceived as a “house of many rooms” with no access between them. At times, a person may feel possessed by a demonic, alien presence or voice (introjected hostile parental image). This personality type is prone to dissociation, depersonalization, and fugue states.
Body Structure and Posture: Body is generally narrow and tight in an attempt to hold together against the fear of breaking apart (body may be fuller and more athletic if there are paranoid elements present owing to parental sexualizing); pervasive tension and stiffness throughout the body, with a frozen or wooden quality. The head, which is frequently big, has a large forehead, is thrust forward, sagging down or to the side (due to tension created at base of skull to sever the head from the body and feelings). Shoulders raised in terror, arms dangling like appendages (to prevent contact with others or violent acting out). Person is frequently “on their toes,” ungrounded, in the “fight or flight” position (curled, flexed, and/or tight in the Achilles tendon). Body splits are quite noticeable, most typically between the upper and the lower half, but also between the front and the back, the left and the right sides, including the eyes, the head and the body (correlates to use of splitting defense). Twisted spine (attempting to flee the dangerous surroundings or parent that it also requires); individual has particular difficulties with the “bow” position. Ocular blocks are prevalent, creating vision problems (doesn’t want to see the coldness or hostility), and the emotion in the eyes is frequently either frozen panic or disconnectedness, with flashes of murderous wrath; the expression in the eyes is split from the expression in the rest of the face. Lack of color and coldness in the extremities; also cold to the touch in chronic constriction sites. Because of the removal of energy from the external surface of the skin, touch is uncomfortable or painful. Shallow, constricted breathing (inability to embrace life) and a high-pitched or constricted voice; a choke reaction is easily triggered if the person is asked to breathe deeply (or on roller). Psychosomatic disorders (often headaches, eczema, digestive and respiratory issues) are present as a result of chronic contractions and a de-energized state, which is exacerbated in those who are more strongly protected. Chronic locations of extreme stress include the base of the skull, shoulder, leg, hip joints, the diaphragm, and the ocular section of the face. Dominant spasms are found in the tiny muscles surrounding joints (fear of moving), resulting in either inflexibility or hyperflexibility (more severe because muscles have given out). This indicates that all of the energy has been withdrawn to the core and that the arms and legs have been severed for survival purposes. A schizoid is not a good hugger because they are skeptical of others and have problems trusting them.
Energy Patterns: Energy is withheld from the body’s peripheral structures, which make contact with the outside world: the face, hands, genitals, and feet (correlates to poor reality testing). Organs are not properly energetically connected to the core because of chronic tensions around the base of the head, shoulders, pelvis, and hip joints. The inner charge tends to be locked in the core, weakening the will but also causing violent eruptions due to compression. Energy flow is greatly reduced at the waist due to extreme diaphragmatic constriction and separation from sexual feelings, and at the base of the skull due to thought-feeling separation.
Chakra Patterns: The following chakra patterns can be observed:
Crown – (spiritual connection) open but asymmetrical;
Third Eye – (intuitive talents) open but asymmetrical;
The Throat – (self-expression) contracted and inverted;
the Heart – (love feelings) contracted and inverted;
the Solar Plexus – (universal wisdom) partially opened;
the Sexual – (pleasure and creativity) contracted and inverted;
and the Base – (grounding and connection to physical life) contracted and inverted.
- Dissociation: Dissociation from painful emotions and thoughts, often subconsciously associated with the components of the self, such as the body, self-image, specific activities, being exposed to others—and even life itself, connecting participation in existence with self-annihilation.
- Intellectualisation: Intellectualisation is a defense strategy in which logic is employed to avoid confrontation with an underlying conflict and the emotional discomfort that comes with it – where thinking is used to escape feeling. It entails emotionally withdrawing oneself from a stressful situation.
- Withdrawal: Withdrawal into a thriving inner ‘fantasy’ world (while understanding the difference between reality and fantasy). Fantasy helps with emotional demands.
- Distancing: Distancing from others, even when there is a desire to connect (which some schizoids have). Closeness and social interaction are controlled so that the person does not feel overwhelmed, as well as due to a lack of trust abilities, such as resolving differences, being spontaneously authentic ‘on the spot,’ and managing intimacy versus distance – different types of relationships and social styles.
Developmental wound timeline: Conception- 6 months after birth
Separation: Survival vs Needs
Primary Fear: Falling apart
Primary Holding Pattern: Holding together
Primary longing: They tend to long for acceptance and survival. Primary Struggle: It is for the right to exist on a physical level.
Contraction Illusion: “My existence is defined by my thinking, my thoughts, and my uniqueness.
Illusion of release: I will be annihilated.
Oral Character Type
The Oral type, also known as The Needy Child, frequently suffers disruptions in care, a loss of security, or a failure to meet basic needs. This personality type appears to be empty or in need of “filling up,” and some may take on excessive caregiving responsibilities or developing addictions.
Notable Characteristics: Being dependent or attaching to others is one of the most prominent qualities of someone with an oral personality type. Their demeanor is often meek and non-aggressive. They have a great desire to be held as well as nurtured and cared for. People with this personality type are typically affectionate and “snuggable.” They frequently become interested in others. They yearn to be hugged and touched by the people they love. They rarely get upset, but when they do, it can be a violent outburst. When they feel abandoned, they tend to rage. Abandonment can be regarded as something as simple as someone failing to return a text or phone call in a timely manner. Somebody might be running late in person, and the oral person may burst in anger. They frequently blame others for their misguided emotions. They automatically switch to rage rather than experiencing a more suitable emotion such as fear or grief. When their abandonment issues are pushed, an oral character may build up years or decades of fury under a pleasant exterior shell and then explode and spill it all at once. In this situation, an inappropriate and excessive level of fury frequently explodes. This character tends to be guarded and restrained in his demands. They may be unable to maintain relationships, projects, jobs, or interests after a brief time of rigorous participation. It is possible to notice and report a lack of motivation, energy, and chronic fatigue in them. They could have eating disorders or chronic money troubles (under-earning/compulsive spending). They are also predisposed to depression and/or chronic mood fluctuations, as well as manic-depressive disorder. They may struggle with delayed gratification, impatience, and persistent irritability. Frequent physical injuries with long healing periods might well be recorded among them. Long into adulthood, they rely heavily on institutions, parents, or others for basic survival needs.
Major Fears: Fear of abandonment, rejection, and being alone are some of the prominent fears of people with this character type. They are also worried about facing confrontational situations. As the unconscious fight is about being independent or expressing needs, they tend to have a hard time being direct and asking for what they want.
Strengths: They have a remarkable ability to foster and heal others. An appreciation for the great abundance of existence, as well as the delight of sharing. They may progressively gain true independence, autonomy, and self-confidence, as well as the ability to surrender with oneness to another. Strong intuition abilities and the ability to see ideas through completion, through sustained, patient effort. The person is modest and easy to get along with, is trustworthy and affectionate and looks after others because he longs for someone to look after him. He is frequently disturbed that he is not cared for as well as he cares for others. His shy personality never allows him to ask for everything he requires, therefore he suffers in silence. Orals are excellent rescuers and helpers. They are the ones who rescue dogs and place children for adoption. They make excellent nurses, massage therapists, healers, animal and baby lovers, and so on.
Origin: The “communicator”, “oral”, or “the needy child” character is so named because they exhibit many characteristics typical of the oral period of life, i.e. infancy, particularly the period from 6 to 18 months. Attempting to meet oral demands indirectly does not define an oral character. Character for this structure and others is defined by the energy structure and the attitudes that protect it. The transition from dependency to independence is a critical developmental stage in childhood. This happens to everyone of us in phases and at varying levels. From birth until the age of roughly three years, the kid gradually progresses from a state of complete dependency to one of more or less fundamental autonomy and separation from the parents on a physical and emotional level.
The “Needy” character experiences a developmental halt or pause in their fulfillment of early needs, reliance, and dependency gratification. These needs could have been physical in terms of adequate breastfeeding and thus nutrition, in terms of touch, clothes, and stimulation in their environment, or emotional in terms of the mother’s touch, presence, love, adoring gaze, and verbal coo-ing to the infant. Childhood dynamics that lead to a needy personality are often those that occur from a lack of mother-attunement with the kid. At this period, the father provides a secondary but still significant role of support and nurturing to both the child and the mother, but the mother is the major defining bond that shapes the child.
Typically, there was deprivation or inconsistency on the part of the parents in meeting the child’s nurturance needs. The Needy personality appears to be undercharged, deflated, “not filled up,” or starved of energy, and their body reflects this undercharge, thinness, weakness, or reliance. They continue to hunt for someone or something to “fill them up.” As in the initial phase of life, the child experienced a traumatic incident of being abandoned, they unconsciously continue to long for this attachment throughout their life.
The “Communicator” acts from an underlying need to be held, supported, and cared for, but these feelings are frequently deliberately denied, and a reaction formation emphasizing independence and responsibility is strongly in place. This can result in an inflated display of independence that does not hold up under pressure. Internally, there is a lack of independence and a suppressed need to cling to people. The underlying experience is one of being on the point of deprivation and abandonment, and independence is feared because it will result in total abandonment. As the child was exposed to abandonment, he developed an unconscious defense of trying to be independent in order to be accepted by people. Very often, people with this personality trait might initiate becoming independent at a very early age with the thought process of being accepted, as a result of which they might start to achieve their developmental stages way before others of their age. You might find these people started walking, or talking before their developmental age; they try to grow and mature before their age. As a result, the child throughout adult life manifests a lot of energy to become co-dependent, and gives up on expectations from others. According to the child, if they ask for their needs, they will be abandoned by the people. Due to this traumatic experience of abandonment, the child unconsciously develops a few negative core beliefs, which might be unconscious; these include statements like: “I must not need”, “If I need I will be abandoned”, “I am alone”, “No one will ever be there for me”, “If I connect with another, I will lose myself”, “If I am independent, I must be alone”, “I cannot stand on my two feet”, “I must give to others in order to receive”, “The needs of others will suffocate me”, “The world is a depriving place”.
Relationships: The primary motivation in relationships is to seek love and support. The strong fear of abandonment and loss of love, paired with the equally intense fear of losing oneself in love, results in an ambiguous attitude about succumbing to feelings. Separation anxiety may be very severe, and oral characters might cling on to unsatisfying situations very firmly, often with much whining. People with this personality type frequently project their own needs and desires onto the receiver, ignoring the requests expressed by the receiver. Others frequently perceive what the oral character considers to be the gift of love as a demand for affection. For example, the individual will promise a lot and believe they are delivering it (intention), but recipients will see that the individual does not follow through for one convincing reason or another (results). The communicator then makes many requests that they believe they are entitled to as retaliation. Another method of gaining support is to show oneself as weak and deprived. If rescue is not explicitly sought, the need for it is acted out. Because ineffectiveness is the key to avoiding abandonment, the collapsing communicator can never make it without assistance. Potential rescuers get resentful. Another method of gaining support is through direct, self-righteous demand. The communicator may list numerous injustices and demand that someone take action. These actions’ alienating effects on others appear to repeat the feeling of early abandonment, prompting the person to “give up” on relationships at times. There is a true potential to communicate love, yet relationships are frequently romanticized by the imagination to an impossible height, or are quickly abandoned. Relationships with persons who are exceedingly needy are regularly sought after (“I’ll take care of you as the needy me that I am not.”). Love is associated with both a long-awaited reward and the possibility for suffocation or devouring. Surrendering to love emotions for someone awakens deep concerns of abandonment, falling behind, losing oneself, and being alone. Despite intentional efforts, it is extremely difficult to develop a solid relationship because the communicator is either rejecting wants or portraying needs that are so big that they are unmeetable. In either instance, smooth, reciprocal, ‘good enough’ caregiving cannot be developed. There is a strong need for intimacy. In order to experience intimacy, they are willing to give up everything else (control, power, etc.). Having personal relationships is critical to their survival. They must be linked to someone. They are frequently quite romantic. They readily become engrossed in a relationship since they will do practically anything to avoid being abandoned. To stay connected to someone, individuals frequently alter their demeanor and give up their essential ideals. They will frequently remain in unhealthy and abusive relationships rather than feeling alone and abandoned. They believe that living with the devil is preferable to living alone. If someone said “I love you,” it would indicate “Please don’t leave me.”
Sexuality: Sexual encounters can be utilized to escape abandonment and loneliness while also providing a sense of connection. Slow and sensitive movements are preferable over powerful and passionate ones. Oral satisfaction can be obtained through sexual activities (downward displacement). Women may have frequent and easy orgasms that are not exceptionally charged or strong, whereas men may not have full erections or ejaculate readily and prematurely without much charge. Being hugged or cuddled (oral need) is frequently preferred over sexual intimacy (genital need). There is often a desire to prolong sexual activities since oral enjoyment is met linearly over time, as opposed to more genital actions, which require a more explosive charge-discharge pattern.
Career: After a period of extreme devotion to their career, an oral character finds it challenging to remain dedicated to it and hence might frequently switch organizations or jobs. They have a difficult time settling down, therefore they rarely finish what they start. They also encounter regular financial difficulties because they either spend too much or earn too little. They desire to work in fields that allow them to help others. As a result, they frequently select careers in health care, social service, non-profits, academia, and education, where competition is minimal and employee rights are firmly established. Work may be a stressful environment. People with oral personality type are extremely sensitive to unjust treatment and may feel mistreated in any leadership structure. Also, at work, the coping method of complaining may be unavailable or may result in additional problems. The suppressed inner sense of lack gives rise to an unconscious idea that the world owes them a living. This does not result in laziness because this character is never lazy, but it may give off a vague sense of entitlement that others may learn to dislike.
Spirituality: Individuals high on this trait are typically spiritual in the sense that intentions, images, ideals, and sentiments are regarded as “better” than outcomes, physical sensation, pleasure, and acts. The communicator, like Plato, believes that the immaterial is preferable to the material. This is due to a loss of attachment to and security in the body. Art, particularly literature or poetry, is frequently pursued. This can be motivated by emotion, but it can also be motivated by a sense of superiority. Also, because the arts are essentially subjective, they escape comparison with the results of others. The communicator’s natural tendency is to find ‘the correct thing to do’ and do it. As a result, the communicator is morally and socially capable. However, putting good ideas into action can be tough. Communicators have a tendency to focus intensively on their objectives and plans, both past and present, and to dismiss results as insignificant or the responsibility of others. In the world, ideas are untested, and while idealism can sometimes bring fruit, foolish and unrealistic beliefs typically persist. ‘How things should be’ is far more essential than ‘how things almost often are.’ This can cause the communicator to clash with instinctive impulses in individuals and society that keep ‘things from being the way they should be.’
Psychological Functioning: Emotional needs are commonly ignored consciously and suppressed by willpower, resulting in an inner emotional climate of deprivation, grief, despair, and bitterness. Separation anxiety is strong because of the intense fear of abandonment and loss of love, paired with an equal fear of losing oneself in love. Deep wrath at unmet wants is frequently turned against oneself, resulting in depression (sometimes alternating with unsustainable periods of exaggerated euphoria), and aggressiveness is exhibited softly and covertly (through verbal sarcasm, refusing to follow through on tasks, getting sick, not paying bills, chronic lateness, etc.). Profound crying and seeking out are suppressed, however there may be a lot of superficial “bitter” crying, gripping, and clinging. The will is utilized to either give excessively to others (in order to obtain) or to cling passionately to others for direct support. There is a true potential to communicate love, yet relationships are frequently romanticized by the imagination to an impossible height, or are quickly abandoned. Mentally, there are strong intuitive and intellectual capacities, but creative ideas are not charged or implemented since the will is utilized to avoid self-sufficiency in order to be cared for. An insufficient sense of self resulting from emotions of unfulfillment, incompleteness, and a perceived incapacity to be independent, along with strong self-loathing for perceived weakness and dependency. Addictions can display extreme dependence conflicts (in an effort to substitute for the needed, but ambivalent caretaker and genuine sustenance). The mouth functions and their related psychosocial correlates are intensely focused in the personality: taking in (acquisitiveness), holding on (tenacity & determination), biting (destructiveness), spitting out (rejection, contempt), and closing (refusal); continuous smoking, eating, drinking, talking (often fast), biting, etc., may be present, or self-depriving behaviors, such as poverty or self-starvation, may be acted out.
Body Posture and Structure: Posture is frequently one of fatigue and collapse; the body is generally childlike in appearance (there may be very little body hair), underdeveloped in musculature, and the body may be either long and thin (compensated) or extremely little (collapsed); the body is not substantially armored. The neck is frequently lengthy and reaches forward (looking for nourishment). Lips are frequently thin (against reaching out), jaw is clenched (against rage), and there are frequent dental problems or other physical problems around the mouth and throat; chin may be pulled in (against swallowing) or jutting out (determined not to need); mouth may be large, showing a lot of teeth (aggression, for biting); teeth may be pushed out due to an extensive period of thumb-sucking in childhood. The eyes are longing and pleading. Shoulders are rolled forward, flattening the chest and creating shallow breathing (negating the need to take in); female breasts are either very large (compensated) or very small (collapsed). Soreness between the shoulder blades (collapsed will center) and in the lower back (premature self-support); chronic lower back discomfort. Hands, feet, and pelvis (points of touch with the outside world) appear immature, undercharged, and frequently extremely small; arches in feet may be fallen and knees locked (making this person a “pushover”); feet and legs are not perceived as providing good support.The body is frequently in pain, with injuries or illnesses (lower back, knees, respiratory) that require a long time to heal. Chronic stress points include the mouth, shoulder girdle, between the shoulder blades, lower belly and lower back, root of the neck (all to prevent sobbing, reaching out, or displaying hostility), and the back of the knees. Tall and thin, with a sunken chest. They may have a slumped posture and shoulders rolled forward to protect the heart from emotional suffering. The body may sag downward. The core energy may go to the arms and legs, but it is quite feeble. The individual might be prone to depression.
Energy Pattern: Undercharged in general, especially in the chest and lower half of the body, as well as at points of contact with the environment. Energy flows poorly to the periphery and leaks out. These individuals tend to be “Energy vampires,” who seek energy by “sucking it” from others. The core is accessible, but the energy is not metabolized (this is related to shallow breathing, which prevents “fuel burning” for activity).
Chakra Patterns: The following chakra patterns can be observed:
Crown (spiritual connection) is partially open;
Third Eye (intuitive powers) is partially open;
Throat (self-expression) is partially collapsed;
Heart (loving feelings) is partially open.
The Solar Plexus (global wisdom) is partially expanded and asymmetrical;
The Sexual Plexus (pleasure and creativity) is partially collapsed and inverted;
and the Base Plexus (grounding and connection to physical life) is partially collapsed.
Psychological Defenses: Identification: where the person tries to mimic another person and their behavior to become more acceptable socially, displacement: the redirecting of an impulse (typically anger) onto a powerless substitute target is known as displacement, Reversal:Essentially, it consists in shifting what is passive into active; a person who believes he is the passive object of a traumatic experience can reverse it and become the active actor of that same event, turning against the self: a type of displacement in which the person becomes their own substitute target. It is usually used to describe hostility, rage, and aggression, rather than more pleasant emotions, denial: entails a resistance to accept reality, so hindering awareness of external events, projection: An individual projects unfavorable thoughts, feelings, and motivations onto another person, and splitting: an immature defense in which polarized views of self and others emerge as a result of unacceptable contradictory emotions. A person who uses splitting may idealize someone one moment (seeing them as “all nice”) then depreciate them the next (seeing them as “all evil”); These are the key psychological defenses adopted by this character type.
Developmental wound timeline: 6-18 months of age
Separation: Independence vs Needs
Primary Fear: Falling Behind
Primary Holding Pattern: Holding on
Primary longing: They tend to long for independence.
Primary Struggle: is for the right to need.
Contraction Illusion: I am not needy. I am giving and needed.
Illusion of release: I will be abandoned and helpless.
This is a subtype of the Oral personality type. After the age of two, unlike the oral type, they know that in order to live in the world, they must hide their inner emotions and project resilience and strength on the outside. These people unconsciously have a fear of being vulnerable and hence they always portray how they have no weaknesses and must be strong in the world. They have guarded themselves in a way where they know they can not expose themself or their vulnerability. Their fundamental identity is fear of abandonment, but they put on a hard exterior shell to avoid appearing vulnerable. They may appear powerful on the outside, but when put under strain, they will break emotionally. It is a show of strength rather than genuine strength. They believe that they must do things on their own and do not require the assistance of others. They are incredibly independent to the fault and will frequently be stubborn and refuse help since they do not want to appear vulnerable and in need. They exaggerate their sense of independence. They constantly put themself to the test.
Major Fears: Being exposed is one of their greatest fears. Being carried away by emotions is also a concern to them. They are afraid of being outshined by someone with emotional intelligence. They believe they can navigate life with power and determination, while emotions become their “greatest weakness.” Because feeling out of control is frightening, they spend a lot of effort to maintain control.
Strengths: They have great caregiving skills. They are always willing to put in the effort to make people happy. They are frequently overly eager to deny their own demands. They appear to be self-sufficient and low-maintenance and usually have high energy, are productive, and worldly.
Relationships: Eager to connect and be in a relationship but hesitant to go deep. Would prefer an active outside relationship rather than a deep and intimate one. A compensating oral would choose to go skiing with a lover than lie on the couch and communicate about their feelings. When it comes to expressing their inner feelings, they feel hindered and inefficient. Their craving for intimacy clashes with their rigid exterior shell. They find it difficult to be vulnerable.
Body Structure: Men and women are frequently athletic and muscled. Active lifestyle, typically taken to extremes, such as in adventure or extreme sports. Many professional basketball players have compensatory oral personalities (tall, strong, and independent on the outside but weak and insecure on the inside). Competitive and frequently dominant (a strong desire to win and a great dread of losing).
Energy Patterns: They have a tough exterior shell around them, similar to a tree bark. They have a high pain tolerance because they frequently become numb to feelings. They have a dynamic and alive core of energy and emotion, but the energy is difficult to access. When the core is triggered, there is often a wave of intense emotions (such as the loss of a close relative).
Masochist Character Type
The Masochistic personality, also known as The Endurer, may have grown up with a dominating or demanding parent. Crushed attempts at independence may result in a child who is tame and obedient. Self-defeating and self-humiliating behavior can emerge from rage suppression, dependency, and powerlessness.
Notable Characteristics: A submissive demeanor accompanied by a strong sense of resentment or hostility is noticeable. A suppressed feeling of hatred and hostility can also be observed. Still attempting to rebel against mother, but acts out against others rather than directly against her. They tend to possess a superiority complex. They tend to suffer and complain often, yet nothing ever changes. They are known for always complaining and never being satisfied. They tend to frequently collect or hoard things. They control their rage. They believe that in order to receive love, they must be submissive. They have a constant feeling of giving up. According to them, life is very difficult. They use guilt to exert control over others. They generally describe persistent mental and physical discomfort as well as continuous low-level anxiety. There is submissive behavior and a lack of self-assertion (inability to say “No”). There are also strong emotions of shame and humiliation. They frequently feel trapped. They exhibit self-destructive behaviors (sabotaging success in jobs and relationships, accidents, sexual acting out, etc.). Close relatives describe obsessive/compulsive difficulties, notably with sex, cleanliness, and orderliness. They are preoccupied with sex, masturbation, pornography, and/or excretory functions, and are plagued by feelings of guilt, humiliation, and self-punishment. Inability to let go of or change recurring habits in violent or unsatisfying relationships. They are unable to handle pleasure or accomplishment without feeling guilty or anxious. Sadistic, cruel, and abusive behavior, as well as widespread concern over inclinations to do so, can be observed at times.
Major Fears: An endurer is afraid to take chances and risks. They are likewise terrified of becoming hopelessly lost or trapped. They are quite concerned about offending their mother and the consequences that may follow. They are likewise afraid of expressing themselves directly. Being assured that they would be liked if they are good is a huge source of concern for them. They also have certain negative core beliefs which are as follows: “As long as I surrender to the wishes of others, I shall be loved.” “I will be crushed if I assert my freedom.” – “I must please others in order to receive love.” “I can never say no” – “I must never voice my dissatisfaction.” “I shall injure myself to keep others from injuring me.” “I’ll explode if I feel too much.” – “I am inadequate and repulsive because of my negative emotions.” “Life is difficult, and suffering is inevitable.”
Strengths: Exceptional pleasure, humor, optimism, playfulness, and joy capacities. Genuine encouragement, strength, and a desire to help others. An expansive, open heart filled with great compassion, genuine love, and comprehension. Positive assertiveness and healthy aggression with considerable amounts of energy when unleashed by a strong enough stimulation- Ability to be spontaneously creative in the moment, renounce ego control, and trust the natural order in all things.
Origin: The Masochist is also known as ”The Endurer”; or “The Consolidator”. Childhood dynamics that set a person up for an Endurer destiny are often centered on a child’s need to separate from their parents, individuate, and develop their own distinct identity. One common unaddressed issue among parents with children is their need to have complete control over the child, or to regulate and control the child to some idealized system of beliefs or objectives. We are born and designed to express our distinct personalities freely and to live within that freedom by learning to appropriate boundaries, responsibilities, and obligations to others. There is a continual dynamic within each of us to be free and to find acceptance within the community, group, or family to which we belong.
The Endurer personality was essentially subjected to continuous intrusion, control, and humiliating submission at the hands of one or both parents until they surrendered their free choice and freedom. The hostile reactions that occurred along the road in this failing battle for their own existence were ultimately destroyed and disowned, until they became docile and obedient. The Child’s wrath at the suppression flowed underground and into his body. The child begins to distrust their own instincts about when they are hungry, when to go to the toilet, how much to eat, and so on, because all of this is now under the supervision and direction of the intrusive parent (s). In this sense, the child learns to distrust and reject their own nature and humanity, preferring instead to be managed and directed by the parent. They lose their sense of self-determination and self-direction. They appear to be good, cooperative, docile, agreeable, and deceptively happy all of the time, yet they are raging on the inside. To force conformity with the adult’s demands, the parent may frighten the child. This can include threats of punishment, the parent leaving the home and abandoning the child, or the child being thrown out of the house and abandoned by the parent. In many cases, “smothering” rather than “mothering” occurs, and it occurs at the child’s socialization skill level, but it can also occur around physical intake impulses (eating and drinking) and bodily elimination impulses (Excretion and urination).
Basically, if you corrupt the child’s intake and/or elimination processes, they may begin to lose will and command over such processes and succumb to the parent. The “flow” of these processes is frequently disrupted, resulting in excessive food or drink intake under parental compulsion or pressure to eliminate according to predetermined timelines. Sometimes the infant begins to “hold in,” and the body takes on a “pressure cooker” appearance, which corresponds to the Endurer’s inner psychic world, which fears intrusion, control, smothering, and loss of freedom by others.
The Endurer appears in life as a self-depreciating, self-defeating, and frequently self-torturing or self-humiliating individual who appears to have a need to suffer and torture others in their pain. This personality type will have a need to whine and complain, as well as a sense of sorrow or a lack of genuine pleasure. They may also appear with a fixed smile, which they were compelled to put on for their parents as children and which is now unknowingly in them the “expected thing to do.”
Relationships: Consolidators can feel close and offer and receive warmth in relationships, but the connections still have a sense of stress and strain. Relationships are dominated by conscious or unconscious attempts to get appreciation and approval, permission to feel, and respite from guilt. This is accomplished through exaggerated pleasing, servile, and submissive behavior (which the recipient may see as hostile, domineering, and disdainful), self-deprecating attitudes and behavior, frequent moaning and complaining, or directly provocative behavior. A consolidator may also combine with a more verbally critical character structure (such as a communicator), allowing the complaining to be “contracted out” to the partner. They will stay with you to the end because leaving you would be too difficult. They are willing to put up with a great deal of maltreatment. They are dependable and laid-back. They are also noted for being extremely submissive and low-key. They are regarded to be low maintenance and readily delighted in relationships.
Sexuality: The Consolidator has a powerful sexual desire. As this individual is constantly seeking pleasure and release, both of which are deeply desired but also inhibited, extreme concern with sex and frequent masturbation are prevalent. Pornography is often a source of interest. The desire to transform pain, subjugation, and humiliation into a release or way to achieve “pleasure” is frequent. Surrendering to love is regarded as both potentially liberating and potentially crushing, with pain regarded as a vital part and pleasurable feelings in love and sex regarded as “too much.”
Career: A masochist might engage in self-destructive actions, as a result of which they may end up damaging their profession or career. These people also struggle with taking on leadership roles and thus want to always have a supervisor. They prefer to be second-in-command because it allows them to execute to their greatest ability.
Psychological Functioning: Feelings are generally predominant and intensely felt, but they are trapped in, literally packed within by huge armoring, resulting in prolonged agony, suffering, and anxiety. Negative impulses (including wishes to punish, crush, or be sadistic to others) and their expressions are strictly forbidden in this framework, and are followed by significant feelings of guilt, shame, and humiliation if any self-assertion is expressed, as well as a dread of erupting violently. Positive sensations of love, including laughter and joy, are quite active, but they are encased deep within and prevented from fully expressing themselves; pleasure and any great surges of energy are viewed as a threat (of exploding or the bottom falling out). Extreme efforts are taken to be polite, pleasant, attractive, subservient, self-sacrificing, and ingratiating in order to conceal a significant amount of underlying animosity and spitefulness; negative feelings are primarily communicated through passive-aggressive conduct or provocative attitudes. The will is weakened by the constant holding pattern, but it is strong enough to express its resistance (to the parents’ crushing will) through stubbornness, defiance, and passive refusal (to move, to be successful or happy, etc.); the will is also frequently directed to make the individual appear foolish or eccentric, or to dissimulate, so there is considerable inner doubt about one’s own intelligence or wisdom. The mind can be quite tidy, but it is usually obsessively so, with much rumination on details to deflect from feelings. An insufficient sense of self caused by the rejection of spontaneous, assertive sentiments and profound emotions of inadequacy; self-assertion is severely constrained and there is emotional burden (feeling oppressed, “stuck in the mud,” “too difficult to move”). Unconsciously connected with sadism, spite, and animosity, but consciously identified with attempting to please. Disguised exhibitionism paired with self-derogation and self-deprecation, as well as a continuous desire to harm oneself. Fears of abandonment stem from a perceived dependency on others for stimulation as well as “decompression” from stimulation and pent-up sentiments. Fears of abandonment stem from a perceived dependency on others for stimulation as well as “decompression” from stimulation and pent-up sentiments.
Body Structure and Posture: An Endurer’s body is often shorter, thick, and muscular (to contain assertiveness and unpleasant impulses), with chronic tension in the body; excessive body hair may be present. The neck is short and thick (due to a “turtle-like” pushing in of the head). The shoulder muscles are enlarged (to bear burdens) and the buttocks are pulled in and squeezed together (to restrain the temptation to goof up and let out), causing the pelvis to move forward. The waist is short and thick, enclosed, compressed, and collapsed (from drawing in and down from the top and up and in from the bottom to restrain impulses to let out); hips and thighs are frequently big and heavy in women; and the belly frequently balloons in men. The abdominal compression affects the entire diaphragmatic segment, making exhalation difficult and impeding the function of all organs in the area. The person’s posture and motions are typically awkward or clumsy, with frequent little accidents (messing up) and a general uncomfortability in the body. As the entire pelvic floor contracts, there is anal and vaginal tension and spasticity (producing acute pain and difficulty to freely experience pleasure). Because of the stagnant, retained energy charge, the skin has a brownish tone; acne may be severe. Chronic tension sites include the neck, shoulder girdle, pelvis and buttocks, and the majority of the big muscles. Sore throats, diarrhea, constipation, hemorrhoids, and digestive difficulties are examples of chronic physical diseases of the throat and colon/anal region. Suffering is visible in the eyes, which is frequently accompanied by obsessive smiling.
Energy Patterns: An endurer is fully charged energetically, but their energy is strictly regulated (though not frozen), so they are “boiling” on the inside. Energy flowing upward and downward is suffocated at the neck and waist (creating compression), and energy discharge outlets are closed (throat, anus, genitals). The highly charged energy has become stuck in the skin. A highly charged individual on the inside, but a tightly wound individual on the outside. Very sluggish, lethargic, and bogged down.
Chakra Pattern: The following chakra patterns can be observed:
Crown – (spiritual connection) is deflated;
Third Eye – (intuitive abilities) is open;
Throat – (self-expression) is contracted;
Heart – (love feelings) is open but constricted;
Solar Plexus – (universal wisdom) is open;
Sexual – (pleasure and creativity) is partially open;
Base – (grounding and connection to physical life) is partially blocked.
Psychological Defenses: One of the most famous ego protection mechanisms is reaction generation: a person goes beyond denial and behaves in the opposite way to which he or she thinks or feels; ruminative thinking: the process of continuously thinking about the same thoughts, which tend to be sad or dark; undoing: a person attempts to cancel out or remove an unhealthy, destructive, or otherwise threatening thought or action by engaging in contrary behavior; externalization: an unconscious defense mechanism by which an individual projects their own internal characteristics onto the outside world, particularly onto other people; reversal: transforming what is passive into active; an individual who feels that she is the passive object of a painful situation can reverse it and become the active agent of that same situation;rationalization: cognitive distortion of “the facts” to make an event or an impulse appear less frightening. We do it on a fairly conscious level all the time when we make excuses for ourselves.
Developmental wound timeline: 19-30months of age
Separation: Closeness vs Freedom
Primary fear: of the bottom falling out
Primary holding pattern: holding in
Primary longing: to be free/ spontaneous
Primary struggle: the right to be assertive
Contraction illusion: I’ll be loved as long as I am good.Illusion of release: I will be crushed and humiliated.
Psychopath Character Type
The Psychopath personality type, often known as The Controller or The Leader, may have been subjected to frequent criticism from direct caregivers. To cope, people with this personality type may build a false self in order to avoid rejection. This false self can appear as narcissistic traits, although low self-esteem is more likely to be hidden beneath the surface. Furthermore, this personality type frequently learns to dominate the critical parent in order to shield themselves from additional abuse, which can result in a tendency toward manipulative behavior.
Notable Characteristics: A psychopath frequently expresses strong concerns of being defeated, humiliated, dominated, or used. There is a sense of deception, insincerity, and a lack of integrity. Feelings of emptiness and boredom are offset by periods of recklessness, risk-taking, and thrill-seeking behavior; an addiction to intensity. Disputes with authority (including employers, institutions and the legal system). Sexual impulsivity, promiscuity, and a variety of shallow relationships, but no true intimacy or genuine bonds. They are frequently cunning. They may look to be in good standing on the outside, but behind closed doors, they may be doing shady activities. They are very concerned with their image. They will acquire expensive clothes, vehicles, mansions, jewelry, and so on in order to appear to be successful. They are unwilling to admit weakness, including emotional vulnerability. In order to maintain authority, they will frequently bully or seduce. Capable of manipulation and intimidation. Spending a disproportionate amount of time devising strategies to maintain power. Beware of those who could want to steal his power. Can form close friendships with those who share his interests (because they understand each other). He may, however, surround himself with people who are not in positions of influence. He’ll never have someone to confront him this way. He prefers weak and naive people to exploit and who will not contest his power. People who might challenge him have been removed from his life. He must be in command and pull all the strings. He craves intimacy, but only for as long as he has power. He will not give up authority in exchange for intimacy. In other words, even though he is deeply upset, he may not cry because that would mean a loss of power. This is especially evident in the feminine form, as sexuality is leveraged to gain dominance. Sexual pleasure is less essential than performance. She uses her charm to appear weak at first, but after she has gained strength, she will dominate. She can be seductive at first, then dominant and deadly in the end. She always needs to be one up better than others around her. She will surround herself with foolish and naive people. She is frequently playing a strategic game in order to obtain power, and she surrounds herself with others who have no idea what is going on. To appear powerful, this guy will frequently pay the cheque in a restaurant, has a thrilling job as a lawyer, doctor, actress, or politician. A career is far more fulfilling and important than a family or children. If her power is taken away, they will frequently act out of anger. They are incredibly proficient at manipulation. They frequently have the “chameleon” personality because they can readily mold themselves to different strategies in order to maintain dominance. If bullying and domination are no longer successful, they may resort to seduction and charm. They are not inherently angry; rather, they seek vengeance. They frequently exhibit narcissistic traits, believing that they are the center of the universe. There are three basic forms of psychopathic personalities that might be observed. While they share characteristics such as willfulness, manipulation, and control, the considerable differences observed justify the existence of subtypes.
The Ominous Psychopath: This character type has a masochistic component. This subtype has a commanding physical presence. The head and eyes are very energized, brilliant, and potent. The eyes may have hypnotic properties that allow them to truly “pin down.” Individual believes that the entire world is hostile and aggressive, and therefore views aggression as the only way to satisfy his demands and pseudo-needs. As a result, he employs all of his might and selfish, merciless motivations to overcome the phantom foe that stands in his path. This is a paranoid position that results in a provocation that becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. His presumption is confirmed when the world responds to him on that level. The menacing psychopath fails to comprehend the link between cause and effect that would demand accepting responsibility and leading to change. Rather, he believes that the world is hostile and that his reaction is appropriate.It is extremely difficult for someone with this structure to reverse this viewpoint and recognize that his own ominousness is the root of the antagonism he receives. Because the scary psychopath’s primary devotion is to power, he frequently presents himself as an enormously powerful character. However, this is frequently a disguise for unmet needs and cannot be supported when challenged.
The Submissive Psychopath: This subtype has an oral component to it. The energy and power drives are much more subtle. The personality appears appeasing, placating, and submissive, indicating an attempt to have his wishes fulfilled. This subtype is self-effacing and may struggle with forceful or aggressive behavior. Castration anxiety and/or sexual suppression may be severe. Need is denied to a greater extent than in the other categories. As opposed to the overt menace of the scary psychopath, there is a constant endeavor to maneuver, manipulate, and control discreetly. The oral component is pretty clear and is constantly resisted against. The appeasing, meek attitude is described as “pleasant and sweet,” or “sickly sweet” at times. The submissive psychopath essentially desires something from others, such as love and acceptance, frequently from someone of the same sex. This is due to the infant’s lack of basic assistance, which he now aspires to find in adulthood. However, when a personality becomes submissive, it abandons its own self, its beliefs, intuitive impulses, and honesty. Unable to defend himself, the individual undermines his own integrity and reinforces a deeply ingrained sense of worthlessness and self-contempt. This vicious cycle debases personality, reduces remaining self-esteem, and increases the need for outside affection, validation, and support. As the vicious spiral continues, the personality grows more and more reliant and demanding in a subtle manner, attempting to force others to give him what he is unwilling to ask for. As a result, the individual becomes highly self-centered and oblivious to reality and the needs of those around him. People retreat in a reactive manner, providing less and less love, support, and validation, which expands the cycle and keeps it going. The subservient psychopath will frequently disguise his dependent neediness as affection. He is perplexed as to why this apparent love is not reciprocated by others. Because there is an ongoing attempt to obtain something without expressing it, the other person typically detects dishonesty and feels violated and exploited. This view is correct since the psychopath is repressing his real feelings of hostility and aggression.
The Withdrawn Psychopath: The withdrawn psychopath is scared of confronting the fragmentation he instinctively feels beneath the surface, which would lead to failure. It is a matter of pride for him to repress his needs: the less he requires, the better. “I withdraw from you because you do not meet my expectations,” his egotistical dream states. As implied by this term, psychopaths continuously rationalize (internally to themselves) all of their behaviors. This individual is determined to reshape the world according to his unspoken fantasies. Because he recognizes his responsibilities, his defense is to withdraw, despite the craving and genuine need. This subtype has a schizoid component to it. Although he appears ominous and dangerous, the withdrawn psychopath, like the submissive subtype, is not openly hostile but rather exceedingly weak and will collapse into schizoid states under stress. He lives in isolation and loneliness, claiming that he has no need or desire for the world, life, or others. Needs of all types are severely restricted. This is owing to the individual’s unconscious awareness that he is having problems coping with life as a result of the underlying continually threatening disintegration. As a result, this psychopath tries to conceal his inner explosive desires and protect the outside world from confronting him.
Major Fears: Fear of being dominated or conquered. They find it difficult to accept defeat. Fear of being used. Extremely competitive. They despise losing at all costs. Fear of being disgraced or looking awful. I must never make a mistake. Never, ever give up. They never express emotions publicly. Feelings are a sign of vulnerability. They also have certain negative core beliefs which are: “I must never surrender.” “Everything is a lie, including love and myself.” “Whatever I believe at the time is true.” “I must never make a mistake.” “I shall be humiliated if I am wrong.” “I need to make others need me so that I may dominate them in order to achieve what I need.” – “I will be weak and abused if I accept my feelings.” “The world is an abusive place.”
Strengths: They have exceptional leadership and executive capabilities, as well as the ability to bring people from diverse backgrounds together in a cooperative endeavor. They have commendable abilities to guide and inspire people to complete their chosen objectives in life, and they recognize their own uniqueness without competition or isolation. They are recognized as great inventors and adventurers, capable of taking “the road less taken” or “boldly going where no one has gone before” without recklessness or exaggeration. A true seeker of truth, characterized by genuine humility, honesty, loyalty, and unflinching integrity. A truly large heart full of love and courage to submit to the flow of feelings, life, and the Higher Self. They are highly fixated on success. Good leaders, managers, and visionaries who can see the “big picture.” Excellent public speakers and dressers. A polished public persona. They have the ability to be charming and charismatic, as well as amusing and cool under pressure. They relish the opportunity to lead any organization.
Origins: The Psychopathic character is also known as “The Controller”; “The Leader”; and “The Inspirer”. The psychopath has a personality that is mostly driven by willpower. A healthy personality integrates reason and emotion with will to make a harmonious whole. The psychopath, on the other hand, uses reason and emotions largely to feed and reinforce his desires. This type of personality seeks to exert as much control over his environment and other people as possible, rather than enjoyment or rationality. “My will be done at any costs,” is an often conscious, but sometimes unconscious, statement that encapsulates, in a nutshell, the psychopathic character’s underlying attitude and beliefs.
The childhood dynamics that put a person up for a Controller/Leader output are usually those that follow, but other dynamics can also lead to this end. The basic need to have a healthy and high self-esteem. Self-esteem concerns are central to this personality type. This person, like the Perfectionistic character, builds a counterfeit self to cope with rejection of their own nature and humanity. The difference is that the rejection came directly from the father who repeatedly disparages and “narcissistically injures” the child. The parent criticized and dismissed the child’s real self-expression as “not enough” or “too much” for the parent, or the parent demanded that the child give more gratification, excitement, or significance for the parent than was possible, or a mix of all of these. In the parents, there is some chaos and instability going on. The parent effectively rejects their child’s natural character and humanity, instead attempting to mold the youngster into an idealized version of themselves, one where grandiosity and a sort of perfection are the only options in all aspects and dimensions of life. The child usually fails to live up to the grandiose false idealized image imposed by the parent.
In the dynamic, one parent is frequently a Narcissistic personality. They effectively create the child’s idealization by projecting a false idealized and narcissistic self. They invite the youngster to join them on their pedestal, where they can both worship and be worshiped by each other. This results in a “puffed up” self. Often, the other parent is excluded from the connection, resulting in a triangle. The frozen out parent begins to resent both the parent and the child, as well as the attention that is being shared between them. This parent may then humiliate and embarrass the exceptional child, knocking them off their narcissistic pedestal and wounding the child further and more personally. They may have “received love” by being gorgeous, a winning athlete, an intellectual, or a combination of playing roles. Later in life, both externally and internally, the false self is visible, but because it is the only surviving source of self-esteem, it is guarded, strengthened, and lived from. Because the person’s true inner self was repressed or abandoned, they have poor self-esteem, doubt themselves, and are now sensitive to criticism, disapproval, or failure.
Relationships: The desire to have “followers” is regarded as a compelling motive to interact with others. The individual with this character structure maintains his or her sense of authority while denying dependency through the “needing to be needed.” Every creator has at least one follower, who is usually a romantic partner. Inspirers frequently engage in side relationships to demonstrate their potency and to ‘show’ that they are not dominated by their spouse. Inspirers relate to others largely as objects, as sources of “narcissistic supply” to reinforce images of power and uniqueness. Because others are objectified, anything can be said or done to gain what one wants from another without regard for the other person’s feelings or well-being. To acquire control of others, both individually and in groups, a “divide and conquer” strategy is frequently used, pushing people against one other and then occasionally acting as a mediator or peacemaker. Eccentric, radical, dramatic, unpredictable, or extreme conduct and appearance are frequently employed to attract attention and/or throw others off guard.If they retain power, they can enjoy intimacy. They frequently choose one-sided relationships with people who are weaker (emotionally) than them. They must be desired and pursued. They must “be the ones to wear the pants in the relationship.”
Sexuality: Sex is viewed as a means to an end or a struggle, frequently used to obtain power rather than pleasure or to vent resentment; sex is associated with conquest of the other person and as further demonstration of one’s skill. Maintaining an erection is more important than having an orgasm in men, and extreme pride is taken in the penis; similarly, in women, being seen as sexually powerful and technically skilled is more important than sensual or orgasmic pleasure; feelings in the genitals are greatly diminished, allowing for performances of great endurance, but genuine surrender to sexual feelings and orgasm is experienced as humiliating or terrifying.
Career: In life they seek more power than pleasure. Inspirers understand the inner workings of power. They are often openly appreciated for this, and are rewarded with credibility and even immunity as a result. That is, in sections of society where power is appreciated (entertainment, politics, big business, academia, etc.), they can disrupt many things, yet they are typically not held to the same standard as others, since they are considered as unique, or above normal repercussions. Inspirers can easily lead or dominate groups since hostility is readily available. Inspirers are typically found at the leadership of huge religious congregations, non-profit organizations, and political organizations. In any person, aggression leads to competitiveness. The addition of denial of feeling in the Inspirer can increase the tendency to violate the rights of others. They can not perform under supervision, and might end up creating chaos in organizations as subordinates. They wish to always be in power, and lead the group rather than follow the rules of others. It is difficult for them to share their monopoly with someone else of a similar demeanor and hence prefer to stay with people who are often clueless and won’t contribute to any chaos in the future.
Psychological Functioning: The will is powerfully exerted in order to control others and feelings; nevertheless, sensations are alive in the body but are denied acknowledgement by the intellect. Feelings and the body are denigrated and not trusted, as are the external senses; hence, only what is in one’s head, just one’s own ideas in the present, are considered valid and real. Life is desired for power rather than pleasure. In this structure, the mind is the servant of the will, so reasoning can be dramatically inconsistent, though capable of brilliance; arguing both sides of a situation or mixing lies with truth is common if it serves a manipulative purpose to gain power or be “right”; one’s own lies are often believed; there is also a tendency to poor judgment and an inability to learn from mistakes. Pain is suppressed, and genuine emotions are denied, yet dramatic emotionality and false feelings are acted out in order to achieve a goal, such as intimidation or seduction. Fear of being wrong or of surrendering to the will of others is intense and strongly denied. The mind’s intuitive powers are formidable, with very strong abilities to read what is going on inside other individuals, though knowledge of what is going on is frequently distorted. An insufficient sense of self as a result of a lack of integrity and perceiving oneself and others as easily manipulated and controlled entities is also observed. Numbness defense causes a lack of empathy or compassion, as well as a lack of conscious feelings of sorrow or guilt (numbness is often augmented by alcohol and drug abuse). To offset numbness, you crave intensity and overwhelming stimulation. There is a fear of being controlled or humiliated, underlying a tremendous need to control feelings, others, and all situations; intense anxieties of losing power, being defeated or impotent, and falling into desperate neediness (orality). Aggression is employed to defend against surrendering to feelings (which are associated with weakness) or the will of others.There is a strong engagement in and affiliation with idealistic self-images; urgent need to be unique and important is also present in people high on this trait.
Body Structure and Posture: The body is “structured” to dominate or seduce and can adopt nearly any form, following whichever primary image the individual is predominantly attracted to (i.e.- athletic and powerful, youthful and innocent, sexual and attractive); yet, there are two sorts of body forms typical of this character structure: The “overpowering type,” with a barreled chest, broad shoulders, and large head, while rigid and small in the pelvis, with small buttocks and thin legs, particularly the calves; or The “seductive type,” with broad hips and hyperflexibility in the back, while deflated and immature in the chest area. Armoring is most noticeable in the chest, diaphragm, legs, and shoulders. The eyes are highly charged, generally huge, and frequently dazzling or flashing; in the dominant type, they are penetrating and captivating; in the seductive kind, they are soft and enticing, clever, dreamy or sleepy. This separation is helped by extreme tension at the base of the skull and in the shoulder girdle, which holds the head tightly in place (“I must never lose my head.”). Even when the body is heavy, the feet are “drawn off the earth” and may be little; the calves and thighs may be short and slender. Because of strong willfulness and numbness, physical illnesses are frequently not noticed or displayed until later in life (later life problems may be in the hips, prostate, pelvis in general, or the heart). The spine may be twisted or fused, rendering it immobile. Chronic sites of tension include the base of the skull, the shoulder girdle, the chest and rib cage, including the diaphragm, the waist and abdominal muscles (which are often rigid and contracted to drive sexual energy away from the genitals), and the pelvic area in general, specifically the genitals.
Energy Patterns: Energy is shifted and drawn upwards into the top half of the body and away from the pelvis. Eyes are particularly charged because they are utilized to penetrate, intimidate, and/or entice. Outwardly, energy is directed to control, manipulate, and dominate others, while inside, energy is directed to reject feelings in the self by contracting all emotional centers. Severe tensions in the pelvis, waist, diaphragm, shoulders, and base of head prevent energy from flowing downwards. They are frequently frozen in the center, with an inner/outer split. They may appear healthy and balanced on the surface, yet they are suffering from internal strife. They dislike appearing weak or flawed. They place a high value on appearance. May have a stiff neck and spine due to repressed wrath deep within. The male version sends more energy up to the upper torso and less to the genitals. The female version is frequently the polar opposite, with energy flowing strongly downhill to overcharge the pelvis. This may result in a hypersexual individual, but deep feelings are frequently lost in the process.
Psychological Functioning: The will is powerfully exerted in order to control others and feelings; nevertheless, sensations are alive in the body but are denied acknowledgement by the intellect. Feelings and the body are denigrated and not trusted, as are the external senses; hence, only what is in one’s head, just one’s own ideas in the present, are considered valid and real. Life is desired for power rather than pleasure. In this structure, the mind is the servant of the will, so reasoning can be dramatically inconsistent, though capable of brilliance; arguing both sides of a situation or mixing lies with truth is common if it serves a manipulative purpose to gain power or be “right”; one’s own lies are often believed; there is also a tendency to poor judgment and an inability to learn from mistakes.
Pain is suppressed, and genuine emotions are denied, yet dramatic emotionality and false feelings are acted out in order to achieve a goal, such as intimidation or seduction. Fear of being wrong or of surrendering to the will of others is intense and strongly denied. The mind’s intuitive powers are formidable, with very strong abilities to read what is going on inside other individuals, though knowledge of what is going on is frequently distorted. An insufficient sense of self as a result of a lack of integrity and perceiving oneself and others as easily manipulated and controlled entities is also observed. Numbness defense causes a lack of empathy or compassion, as well as a lack of conscious feelings of sorrow or guilt (numbness is often augmented by alcohol and drug abuse). To offset numbness, you crave intensity and overwhelming stimulation. There is a fear of being controlled or humiliated, underlying a tremendous need to control feelings, others, and all situations; intense anxieties of losing power, being defeated or impotent, and falling into desperate neediness (orality). Aggression is employed to defend against surrendering to feelings (which are associated with weakness) or the will of others.There is a strong engagement in and affiliation with idealistic self-images; urgent need to be unique and important is also present in people high on this trait.
Body Structure and Posture: The body is “structured” to dominate or seduce and can adopt nearly any form, following whichever primary image the individual is predominantly attracted to (i.e.- athletic and powerful, youthful and innocent, sexual and attractive); yet, there are two sorts of body forms typical of this character structure: The “overpowering type,” with a barreled chest, broad shoulders, and large head, while rigid and small in the pelvis, with small buttocks and thin legs, particularly the calves; or The “seductive type,” with broad hips and hyperflexibility in the back, while deflated and immature in the chest area.
Armoring is most noticeable in the chest, diaphragm, legs, and shoulders. The eyes are highly charged, generally huge, and frequently dazzling or flashing; in the dominant type, they are penetrating and captivating; in the seductive kind, they are soft and enticing, clever, dreamy or sleepy. This separation is helped by extreme tension at the base of the skull and in the shoulder girdle, which holds the head tightly in place (“I must never lose my head.”). Even when the body is heavy, the feet are “drawn off the earth” and may be little; the calves and thighs may be short and slender. Because of strong willfulness and numbness, physical illnesses are frequently not noticed or displayed until later in life (later life problems may be in the hips, prostate, pelvis in general, or the heart). The spine may be twisted or fused, rendering it immobile. Chronic sites of tension include the base of the skull, the shoulder girdle, the chest and rib cage, including the diaphragm, the waist and abdominal muscles (which are often rigid and contracted to drive sexual energy away from the genitals), and the pelvic area in general, specifically the genitals.
Energy Patterns: Energy is shifted and drawn upwards into the top half of the body and away from the pelvis. Eyes are particularly charged because they are utilized to penetrate, intimidate, and/or entice. Outwardly, energy is directed to control, manipulate, and dominate others, while inside, energy is directed to reject feelings in the self by contracting all emotional centers. Severe tensions in the pelvis, waist, diaphragm, shoulders, and base of head prevent energy from flowing downwards.
They are frequently frozen in the center, with an inner/outer split. They may appear healthy and balanced on the surface, yet they are suffering from internal strife. They dislike appearing weak or flawed. They place a high value on appearance. May have a stiff neck and spine due to repressed wrath deep within. The male version sends more energy up to the upper torso and less to the genitals. The female version is frequently the polar opposite, with energy flowing strongly downhill to overcharge the pelvis. This may result in a hypersexual individual, but deep feelings are frequently lost in the process.
Chakra Patterns: The following chakra patterns can be observed:
Will Centers are open (in the rear of the body);
Crown – (spiritual connection) can be open and lopsided;
it can also be collapsed;
The Third Eye (intuitive talents) is open but exaggerated;
The Throat (self-expression) is contracted;
The Heart (loving feelings) is contracted;
The Solar Plexus (universal wisdom) is somewhat contracted;
and the Sexual Plexus (pleasure and creativity) is badly contracted. limited base (grounding and connection to tangible existence)
Psychological Defenses: Individuals with this personality type have the following psychological defenses: displacement: the redirecting of an impulse (typically aggression) onto a powerless substitute target is known as displacement. The target can be a person or a symbolic substitute.; numbing: any activity we engage in to numb our emotions and avoid feeling vulnerable; denial: avoiding anxiety by disregarding the truth of a situation; acting out: When one is unable to control a conflicted mental content through thought and verbalization; rationalization: It enables an individual to deal with emotional problems or internal or external stressors by concocting consoling or self-serving but erroneous explanations for his or her own or others’ ideas, acts, or feelings that cover up other motives.
Developmental wound timeline: Birth – 4 years of age
Separation: Independence vs Closeness
Primary fear: falling down
Primary holding pattern: holding up
Primary longing: to have integrity
Primary struggle: the right to trust
Contraction illusion: I can do anything myself if I so will it
Illusion of release: “I will be manipulated, humiliated, and rendered helpless.”
Rigid Personality Type
The Rigid personality type, also known as The Perfectionist, may have experienced significant rejection from a caregiver when they were most vulnerable as a youngster. To appease the rejecting caretaker, they may reject their own nature and strive for unachievable goals. The Perfectionist prioritizes attractiveness, athleticism, and intelligence.
Love life:They are hesitant to fall passionately in love or commit to a long-term, monogamous romantic relationship. People with a high level of this personality trait may record a string of broken relationships, marriages, or extramarital encounters in which they had either sexual or emotional fulfillment, but never both with the same person. He is sexually active, yet he is not completely satisfied.
Work life:They are motivated, competitive, restless, hyperactive, and have a constant urge to “look good” and “accomplish.” They have constant feelings of unfulfillment despite significant success at their job; and unfortunately they never feel content. They are terrified of being vulnerable and betrayed, as well as of being foolish. Keeps the urge to cry distant. Keeps anger and bitterness at rest. Very reliable and responsible. On time and the outer look of power, pride, and independence while inside lurks a deep melancholy and craving for love. Task completion is a skill. He does not reach for what he desires. Can be obstinate at times. He is afraid of looking dumb if he lets go, therefore he holds back.
Family life: Very patriotic and heartfelt. Always be on the lookout. Desires fatherly affection. Deep emotional connections are frequently feared. He has a difficult time relaxing since he is constantly ready for action. He has a proclivity to be the child who grew up too quickly and never had enough time to be a child. Father’s love is frequently conditional (i.e., if you mow the yard, I will love you). He was given far too much responsibility far too quickly. He is a perfectionist who is driven to complete assignments. He’s not going down without a fight. Life is viewed as a problem to be addressed. Is prepared and alert.
Major Fears: Deep dread of loss of control similar to the feeling of dying. They have a fear of surrendering. They are afraid of giving up. Concern of being taken advantage of is also present. The fear of being entrapped. The fear of being manipulated by others. They are afraid of spontaneity since their lives are ordered and precise. They also have certain negative core beliefs present which are as follows: “I will be vulnerable if I love.” “I would attract love by exhibiting resilience and charm.” – “If I have sexual desires, I will be rejected.” “By suppressing my sexual desires, I shall obtain sexual fulfillment.” “No one submits to another.” “I shall survive by never giving up.” “The world is a hostile, competitive environment.”
Strengths: They have frequent high achievements and a desire for success. These people are very accountable, daring and exciting; as well as Self-confident. They are worldly oriented. They are often Ambitious and frequently aggressive. They are known for their competence and detail-orientation. People high on this character type are capable of completing tasks and getting things done. They make terrific actors and actresses. Some common professions include foreman, cop, military commander, soldier, astronaut, gymnast, or athlete. These are the one of those people whom you would want on your team and on whom you could rely.
Origins: The Rigid personality type is also known as “The Perfectionist”; or “The Obsessional”. This personality type in particular has 4 major subtypes known as: The Phallic Male, The Hysterical Female, The Passive- Feminine Male, and The Masculine Aggressive Female. We will understand them in detail below as we go through the text,
Child Perfectionist: Childhood dynamics that set a person up for a Perfectionistic outcome are often ones in which the child was constantly rejected by the parent of the opposite sex, and potentially even by the parent of the same sex, from age 3 to 4 up to roughly age 7, or in early adolescent years. At this age, the child will have natural innate urges to gravitate toward the parent of the opposing sex and will fall in love with that parent in an innocent and infantile manner.This process involves the child becoming vulnerable and completely open-hearted to this parent, and because the youngster is at an oedipal stage, this might also encompass experiencing infantile sexual urges towards that parent. This parent’s role is to be aware of this evolving dynamic and to work skillfully with it so that the child is not rejected, used, punished, or disgraced for having natural heart impulses and sexuality. The child discovers that it is dangerous to love sexually with an open heart and to encounter natural human rivalry. The child will begin to control themselves so that their impulses and urges do not lead them into painful outcomes, and by splitting themselves in this way, they will disown these impulses and feelings into their unconscious, and will begin to compensate by wanting to please the parent and win love in other ways.
Parent Perfectionist: The damaging parent is frequently a Perfectionistic individual themself, who by definition has a closed heart, lives in their brain, and is threatened by the sentiments of others. A parent may be uncomfortable with their child’s infantile sexual behavior and shame them for it, or they may respond aggressively, leading the youngster to believe there is something wrong with this part of themselves. One parent may use the child’s love interest in them as a tool to provoke the other parent’s responses and fury. In this case, one parent engages in a sadistic game in which they encourage and exploit the child’s sexuality and love in order to compete with the other parent. When it becomes too much or threatens the marriage, the manipulator withdraws from the used child or humiliates or punishes them for the previously encouraged behaviors.
The Rigid Subtypes: As mentioned above this personality type has 4 subtypes, which are basically the outcome behavior and personality of the traumatic experience caused due to parental wounding. Let’s look at them in detail:
- The Phallic Male: Because they feel inadequate and guilty for having their natural urges, they decide to become fully self-controlled and “perfect,” and to accomplish whatever will earn them praise, love, and positive attention. In the first dynamic, the wounding parent is often critical and perfectionistic themselves, and so demands perfect behavior, perfect academic achievement, and perfect athletic achievement from the child if the child is to please the parent, which every child does, and will now adopt as a substitute for the disowned natural sexual love feelings that have been rendered unsafe. This parent’s approach is abusive and wrong, and it effectively leverages their own children to promote the family’s false ideal of perfection. Many of these parents may be narcissistic and seek “trophy” children to parade around to others and brag about their athletic and scholastic achievements. In order to live and be accepted, the true authentic child becomes lost in all of this, and becomes a fake idealized self.
- The Hysterical Female: In this situation, a person is observed who overdramatized and expresses their feelings in order to avoid their genuine feelings. Because the literature tended to identify this behavior with women, this viewpoint was popularly dubbed “The Hysterical Woman.” It is also known as the Histrionic personality. This consequence is frequently linked to a history of inappropriate sexual stimulation and exploitation of the child, as well as the consequent competitiveness with the other parent.
- The Passive Feminine or The Passive Aggressive Male: Another consequence is that the person distracts themselves from their feelings by preoccupying themselves with obsessional ideas and/or compulsive rituals and behaviors in their heads. This outcome is frequently associated with a history of inappropriate encouragement and exploitation of the child’s sexuality and the resulting competition with the other parent, but there was also actual punishment of the child for having these thoughts and feelings, despite being encouraged to do so. It is also frequently assumed that this outcome could be the result of a previous early life trauma known as the Unwanted Child.
Physical appearance: Physically, this character has reached the genital stage, yet interpersonally, a great deal of masochistic function is being lived out. The passive-aggressive male will have a pleasant and poised demeanor that is appealing to and drawn to powerful females, but he will also have a high castration anxiety that can only be partially offset by submissive behavior. This character’s name comes from a subtle physical feature of femininity that occurs inside a very mature physical development. This is distinct from an immature-appearing male who resembles an immature female in general. When a body achieves genitality, the secondary sexual features fully develop. As a result, a male who has progressed to the genital stage, such as the passive feminine male, is more capable of feminine qualities, such as sinuous movement, than a pre-oedipal character, male or female. This is not the same as a pre-genital male copying a woman’s actions. In the latter situation, the movements will be exaggerated, harsh, and a parody of femininity, even if unconscious.
- Masculine Aggressive Female: This character represents the idea that a female rigid character may subconsciously identify with the father (presumably a phallic rigid father) and develop not just behavioral competition, but also some masculine secondary sexual characteristics, such as a lot of body hair. She is attractive as a lady with a strict typology, but she will tend to utilize her looks to get power. Mannerisms can be considered slightly mannish. Psychological functioning is similar to that of a phallic guy.
Relationships: We will be focussing on the romantic nature of both the Phallic Males, as well as the Hysteric Female subtypes.
- The Phallic Males: They are incredibly attractive to women, partly because of their physical characteristics, but largely because of the ‘energy’ they exude. Relationships are frequently viewed similar to businesses in that it is seen as sensible to strive to get the most out of them. Relationships with unrivaled male achievers can feel like ongoing renegotiation with a demanding boss. This is that achievers frequently become de facto dominating in personal matters. Love and romantic feelings are powerful, yet they are governed by the mind and will. Achievers are terrified of getting their “heart wounded” by love. Surrender to another is considered unacceptable, and failure is inconceivable. Achievers may have a less-than-complete sense of self as a result of the separation of love and sexual impulses. Male Achievers may become ‘womanizers’ in order to reinforce their masculinity without having to commit to love. Achievers may marry multiple times since the objective is to commit to one lady, but while in a committed relationship, there is a holding back and a seek for love elsewhere. Alternatively, achievers may be quite ‘moral’ about sex since they have enough emotion to feel modesty.
- The Hysterical Female: Relationships for the hysterical female frequently has a push-pull nature, especially around sexual interaction, with a persistent seeking of sexual circumstances and simultaneous escape from them. One person is frequently chosen as a sexual partner, while another is picked as a love partner. Relationships are frequently sought after with persons who are perceived to have socially acceptable status (the “checklist”); referred to as either competitors (to be vanquished) or suitors (to be seduced). Interactions tend to be superficial or formal, with overtones of intrigue (gossiping or soap opera-style drama as the mode of communication), argumentativeness, or a hysterical character to self-expression. In relationships, something is always held back to preserve interest, mystery, and an “edge.” Sex is sought after firstly to validate one’s attractiveness and prowess, and secondly for pleasure. Sexual impulses are frequently perceived as incestuous. Sexual pleasure and full orgasm are achievable, but are frequently avoided due to apprehension about yielding and seeming vulnerable.
Sexuality: The achiever rig people are often effectively powerful. The juxtaposition of high sexual drive and limited discharge may be responsible for the drivenness of this character. Premature ejaculation is a common issue. The genital outlet for sexual discharge may be restricted. Because a substantial quantity of sexual stimulation stays in the pelvis after each act of sex, this can lead to multiple acts of sex in a single day. The achiever may connect with this as being superior as a man and develop ‘Don Juan’ conduct in response to it. Inspirer characters frequently exhibit Don Juan behavior as a result of incomplete discharge, although in that instance, the pelvis as well as the genitals are confined. In any event, sex generally provides ego gratification rather than physical satisfaction for achievers. This discontent is reflected in dissatisfaction with the feminine companion.
Career: In actuality, the Perfectionistic personality is more concerned with failure than with achievement, is more sensitive to criticism than others, and replaces and distrusts positive input with their own internal evaluation of how things could have been better. Outsiders believe the Perfectionistic character has it all and are often envious of their accomplishments, but the Perfectionistic person is typically unable to feel or truly be satisfied within themselves or with their own successes. Perfectionists achieve and advance in their careers by a combination of intellect, dedication, overwork, and competitiveness. One in power, however, they frequently demand perfection from others who do not comprehend this mad drive to succeed at the sacrifice of happiness and life balance. Perfectionistic bosses will launch angry, judgmental tirades at employees they perceive to be lazy, ignorant, weak, or incompetent. This sort of supervisor may micromanage and be unable to trust others through delegation process. He or she will often implement many regulations, black and white reporting systems, statistics, and only measure success through financial or other empirical Key Performance Indicators. In businesses where a Perfectionistic supervisor controls and sets the tone for workplace culture, staff turnover and absenteeism are prevalent.
Psychological Functioning: The intellect is mature, with an efficient but unyielding intelligence that is trusted far more than feelings or impulses; thinking is very linear, with good concentration but little capacity for abstraction; and creativity is restrained. In this system, pride is the driving factor, and huge efforts of will are put toward performance and outward appearances (always being attractive and never appearing vulnerable or foolish). Aggression is often shown in socially acceptable ways through competitiveness, with little restriction. Rigid people have an insufficient sense of self as a result of the separation of love and sexual sensations. They have a powerful Reality Principle that prevails over a deeply suspicious Pleasure Principle. Extreme pride and competition, with an overemphasis on accomplishments, appearances, and performance for self-esteem can be noted. Emptiness, boredom, and unhappiness produced by a refusal to receive from and yield to others and feelings. Passivity and submissiveness are strongly avoided and perceived as weak, whereas stubbornness and rigidity are perceived as strong. Love and sensual feelings are powerful, but they are governed by the intellect and will; there are deep concerns of having one’s “heart broken” in love. Surrender to another is considered unacceptable, and failure is incomprehensible. Pathological manifestations of repressed sexual feelings include psychosomatic symptoms, frequent sexual activity without any love involvement (“flings” or affairs), restlessness, hyperactivity, or “flighty” behavior, or being diverted into materialistic ambition (“No time for love in my busy life.”). Unresolved Oedipal conflicts are repressed, resulting in great longings for the opposite sex, but with persistent fears of betrayal; intense competitiveness with the same sex, but with fears of retaliation (“castration anxiety”). The personality is characterized by persistent attention-seeking, trendiness, and a craving for compliments.
Developmental wound timeline: 3- 4 years of age
Separation: Freedom vs Surrendering to Love
Primary fear: falling forward or on one’s face
Primary holding pattern: Holding back
Primary longing: To surrender in Love
Primary struggle: The right to love sexually
Contraction illusion: “If I am attractive and successful, I will be loved.”
Illusion of release: “If I truly open my heart, I will be rejected.”
Body Structure and Posture: Though the body is normally integrated and harmonious, with body components proportionate, the posture is frequently inflexible and too erect. Their back and neck are forcibly held straight (correlates to pride). The pelvis is drawn back, while the chest is pushed out with exaggerated authority or seductiveness (“You can want me, but you can’t have me.”) The jaw is frequently set in a determined expression. Men’s faces can be starkly masculine and quite hard-looking, whilst women’s faces can be doll-like. Physical armoring is usually superficial and mobile; spasms in the extensor and flexor muscles cause the rigidity in the posture. Walking and gesturing can be seductive and flirtatious or quite businesslike. Unexplained psychosomatic (“hysterical”) symptoms that appear and disappear without any obvious medical reason (vertigo, fainting, loss of vision, skin rashes, allergies, hyperventilating, heart palpitations, paralysis, etc.). Chronic tension points include the long muscles of the body, the inner thigh muscles, and the vaginal muscles in women.
Energy Patterns: Strong, powerful energy charge, but held back somewhat at the periphery of the emotional side of the body, allowing for internal and external energy movement, but with restricted receptivity. Energy is frequently oriented toward “getting things done,” typically with some hyperactivity; the “rest” rhythm is resisted, and all will centers are active and open. Because there is minimal ability to connect energy with armoring, this person is prone to developing psychosomatic illnesses.
Chakra Patterns: The following chakra patterns can be observed:
Crown – (spiritual connection) varies, can be open or closed;
Third Eye – (intuitive abilities) developed and open;
Throat – (self-expression) partially blocked;
Heart – (love feelings) developed, but partially blocked;
Solar Plexus – (universal wisdom) developed, but partially blocked;
Sexual – (pleasure and creativity) developed, but partially blocked;
Base – (grounding and connection to physical life) open.
Psychological Defenses: Individuals with this personality type have the following psychological defenses:
Repression: the unconscious suppression of negative emotions, impulses, memories, and thoughts from your conscious mind
Sublimation: a mature defense mechanism in which socially inappropriate impulses or idealizations are turned into culturally acceptable actions or behavior, potentially resulting in long-term conversion of the initial drive
Somatization: Somatization is the tendency to perceive and communicate psychological discomfort as bodily and organic symptoms, and to seek medical attention for them.
Identification: An individual, to varied degrees, impersonates another person; he identifies with another person