How To Know When It’s Time To Move on From a Relationship

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“Letting go means to come to the realisation that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”

By Steve Maraboli

Relationships necessitate a significant outlay of time, money, and, most importantly, emotional energy. The more time and effort you put into a relationship, the more it will influence your decisions and, ultimately, your life. When you’ve put so much into something, it can be difficult to let go for a variety of reasons, including concerns about the influence on the kids, doubts about whether you’ve put in enough effort to solve the problem or the fear of being alone.

When a relationship deteriorates, though, there will come a point when the harm is irreversible, and nothing can be done to repair it.

One of the most important relationship skills is knowing when it’s time to move on and let go. Most people lack this ability, and they can waste years of their lives in a relationship that makes them unhappy. It’s easy to forget that you have a say in the situation and that you’ve chosen to stay in this relationship.

It’s a dreadful sensation to be stuck in something that isn’t right for you. It stifles your own development and undermines your identity. You could not even recognise the person you’ve become because of this connection. Knowing when to let go is essential for cutting your losses, maintaining your mental health and well-being, and moving forward into the better relationship you deserve. Here are four indicators that it’s time to end a relationship. If even one of them applies to you, it’s probably time to move on.

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12 Major signs it’s time to move on from a Relationship

There is no trust anymore

It’s difficult to regain trust. If you chip away at it long enough, it will completely disintegrate, and there is no going back. For a long-lasting relationship, the most important ingredient is trust. What basis do you have to stand on if you don’t have that? It’s difficult to regain trust. If you chip away at it long enough, it will completely disintegrate, and there is no going back. For a long-lasting relationship, the most important ingredient is trust. What basis do you have to stand on if you don’t have that?

You are being disrespected

Respect is one of the most fundamental parts of any relationship; it even takes precedence over trust because you can’t trust someone who disrespects you. Even minor slights are significant because how someone treats you exposes their genuine character and opinions about you.

Disrespect can manifest itself in a variety of ways, and while you may not always recognise it on the surface, you will always be aware of it. It’s the kicking-in-the-gut feeling you get when a relationship’s normative expectation is breached. Insults, lying, and cheating are all examples of disrespect, and they all demonstrate a lack of concern for how you feel and how these behaviours affect you.

When you feel drained from inside

You can’t recall the last time you were truly joyful. You’ve faked and forced every smile you’ve had in the last six months. You’re physically, emotionally, and psychologically exhausted, and every aspect of your being has been negatively damaged.

We tend to get blinded by positive memories from our former relationships. We become so engrossed in it that we forget about all the misery it brings us. If your relationship frequently leaves you frustrated/upset/unhappy; if your relationship frequently leaves you in tears, this could not be the correct person for you. You should be in a relationship that provides you happiness right now. If your relationship’s primary source of satisfaction is derived from memories, something is wrong.

When it’s about it the other person always

If you feel that your relationship is all about the other person, try carving out some time for yourself and being vocal about your needs; if your spouse becomes irritated or unresponsive, you may need to move on to find yourself and keep your own identity.

While each relationship is unique, both partners should believe that there is room for them to grow and develop and that their hopes and goals count. They should believe that there is room in the relationship for their interests to be expressed and that each of their wants can be addressed. In this regard, imbalanced relationships tend to focus on one individual. The one who is at the centre of the relationship is generally happy with it, while the other feels angry and used as if they are living someone else’s life.

It’s never easy to say goodbye, but keeping your dignity and self-respect is crucial to your mental health, and sometimes letting go is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. Remember that taking care of yourself puts you in the best possible position to be in a happy, healthy, and rewarding relationship, and it’s only a matter of time before you discover one.

When you are expected to change for them

Unconditional love is the purest form of love. Unless it’s for your own good, your partner shouldn’t ask you to change (such as to quit smoking or adopt a healthier diet). Some of my friends had ex-boyfriends who pressured them to change, such as dressing up more regularly to appear more attractive or losing weight when they were at a healthy weight. One even advised that my friend cut her arm and leg hair because he thought it was a given for girls!

The problem isn’t with you. The problem isn’t with the shift in and of itself. The problem is that you are expected to change.

While some requests may appear to be normal or mild at first, they will quickly escalate. As you comply with the requests, more will be made. It’s the first step in him/her attempting to mould you into his/her ideals rather than you are growing into your own.

Not able to give enough time

It should be self-evident, yet it’s a significant indicator. “When a person stops having the time or desire to be with you, you know your relationship is on life support, and you might just have to be the one who has the guts to pull the plug.” You may detect it in your partner or in yourself, but if there’s any avoidance going on, you need to figure out why. It’s time to move on if you can’t get yourself to want to spend time with them.

Missing Sexual Intimacy

You can’t recall the last time you made love to each other. You’ve tried everything you can to rekindle the romance in the bedroom, but your lover prefers to turn away and pretend to sleep. It’s much worse when you catch your partner admiring other people while you’re going down the street together.

When you are trying too hard to keep the relationship alive

In most healthy partnerships, the energy flow between two persons is roughly equal. The give-and-take should, for the most part, make both parties feel as though their needs are being addressed.

When a relationship begins to decline, it may appear as though one person is doing all the work to keep it together, resulting in an imbalance and detachment. The individual performing all the labour may become resentful, while the person receiving the job may become complacent.

When you make a strong effort to persuade someone to approach you, they usually move in the opposite way.

When you struggle to agree to anything

To find to move on from the relationship is when you’re no longer on the same page. When you’re dealing with continual arguments, it’s easy for both parties to become enraged. “Take it seriously when fighting is unrelenting, to the point where there are only a few minutes of calm,” Even if it appears unusual, not arguing enough can be a symptom of trouble: “Some couples get so tired of fighting that they just stop… They frequently stop sharing things with one another and have no power to cause any form of conflict.” When the only thing you can agree on is that you can’t agree on anything, it’s a bad sign for your relationship’s future.

When he/she is getting abusive

Abuse, both physical and verbal, is a no-no. If the other party abuses/hits/curses/swears at you, no matter how he/she attempts to make up for it afterwards, there is plainly something wrong. Even if it was a spur of the moment decision, the fact that he/she let it slip implies there is something deep within him/her that needs to be addressed. Emotional pain is more difficult to deal with. Because emotional pain isn’t apparent, many people dismiss it. Ignore it, and it will vanish. However, mental pain is just as bad, if not worse, than physical pain. Emotional wounds, not physical wounds, are the most difficult to cure

When one has no longer feel for the partner

While chemistry and similar beliefs are crucial, solid relationships are founded on the kindness that exists between two people at the end of the day. Relationships are held together by goodness. It’s about treating one another with kindness and goodwill. It’s sticking by a partner, even if they’re in the wrong. It’s the willingness to overlook flaws and blunders, as well as to put up with irritating behaviours. It’s about your mutual support, admiration, respect, dedication, and commitment. 

The goodness doesn’t vanish instantly; rather, it progressively erodes over time. If you as a person, no longer feel for your partner because of someone else in your life it is the time when you become harsh on the partner. 

It could be because when you start spending your time with someone else now. You start trying to get rid of your partner or you know that your partner is lying to you then you behave in a different way from your partner

Offering a critique or voicing a complaint is not the same as criticizing your partner. The second and third are about specific topics, while the first is an ad hominem assault. It’s an all-out assault on your partner’s personality. When you criticize, you are effectively demolishing their entire self like “You never consider the impact of your actions on others.” I don’t think you’re that forgetful; I think you’re just being selfish. You never consider others! You never consider me!”

Then you start mocking your partner you start abusing, teasing, and using sarcasm to make them feel despised and worthless this is the contempt state “Of course, after a long day, I walk into a filthy house. What else would I expect from a person of your calibre? When I first met your family, I should have realized you’d be a slacker.”

Then comes a state where you start responding to criticism and this state is defensiveness when you use a counter-complaint to defend yourself against a perceived attack, you are being defensive. Another technique to defend yourself is to whine like a helpless victim. Defensiveness, on the other hand, prevents partners from accepting responsibility for problems and exacerbates poor communication like “why do I need to consider you now, I have a right to make my decision on my own and I don’t need anyone’s permission for that.”

Then you just start ignoring your partner like stop listening to them, stop them while they are speaking or stop responding to them this state is stonewalling. People who stonewall can use evasive tactics including tuning out, looking away, pretending busy, or engaging in compulsive or diverting behaviours rather than facing their partner about their problems.


It’s not simple to move on from a relationship. But no matter how difficult it may be, it is something you must do to live a better life. You’ll finally know when it’s time to take matters into your own hands now that you’ve learned the signals it’s time to move on from it. 

There are some things and people in our lives that we never want to let go of. But remember that letting go isn’t the end of the world; it’s the start of something new.


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